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I am not sure if it was because I grew up in a household with brothers or whether I would have had the same feelings and inclinations had I been an only child, but I do know that from the time of my earliest memories I have been fascinated with penises.

Let’s talk about the "basic penis". I regard oral sex as the highest form of expression of love that can be exchanged between two people. Hopefully this information will help you to break down any barriers which you might have that would prevent you from expressing your love in this way.

First things first. LOOK at at your partner’s cock. I do not mean a cursory glance nor a hurried, surreptitious examination. Take time so that you convince your companion that some kind of treat is in store for him provided he will allow you to do with him, and particularly with his cock, exactly what you want.

Place him flat on his back on your bed, in a well-lit room. Take his cock in your hand and LOOK at it. He probably will not have the willpower to stay soft, but then again you are worshipping his very essence. Few men can stay soft under these circumstances, when it is apparent that the person looking at his cock is worshipping it.

When you first start to touch him, his cock will become hard and be in a state where your examination will be meaningful. Wouldn’t it be nice if going to the doctor for an examination was as enriching?

The cock must be hard if you are to be able to note the important parts - those parts sensitive to stimulation by your lips and tongue.

The first thing you will note is whether or not he is circumcised.

Circumcision is not universally practiced. If you don’t know the difference between a circumcised (cut) and an uncircumcised (uncut) penis is, visit CIRCLIST’s anatomy pages. While you can certainly learn to pleasure an uncircumcised man with a long foreskin, I would recommend you consider talking with your man about being circumcised if he has not already been done. It will make your job as his cocksucker much more pleasurable and also provide him with more pleasure having the glans (head) bare at all times. Uncircumcised men are typically over-sensitive, which either causes them pain when you suck the head directly or causes them to prematurely ejaculate during intercourse. The fact is that all uncircumcised men, regardless of how good they are at hygiene, have an unpleasant urine and/or cheesy smell, making your job orally servicing your stud much less pleasant, at least at the start. In short, if you man hasn’t yet been circumcised, don’t suck it! Instead work with him to get him circumcised and then proceed to show him the great oral pleasures you can give to a circumcised cock.

Next take a close look at the shaft of the penis itself. There is a bulbous part of the organ near the outer end, slightly larger in diameter than the shaft, which is often called the head. Technically this is the glans penis. The name comes from the Latin 'glans', which means acorn. Look at it closely; it does look a bit like an acorn, doesn’t it?

The outside perimeter of the glans penis is the corona. This joins the head to the shaft. This is the most sensitive spot on the penis. It is toward this ridge that you will direct most of your attention when you are giving head.

Follow this ridge around to the underside of the penis. You will notice a point where the two ends of this irregular circle come together. This was the point where the foreskin was attached to the underside of the glans before circumcision. The frenulum may still have a remnant here or it may have been completely removed.

Spend time caressing the glans and those areas immediately surrounding it.

Behind the glans is the shaft of the penis. The shaft does not have many nerve endings and does not, therefore, provide a man with any high degree of stimulation when caressed either manually or with your tongue. It always amazes me to note the number of confirmed cocksuckers who believe that sucking up and down on the shaft will get the guy off. That’s not the way, folks!

Beneath the shaft are the testicles (balls, family jewels, call them what you like, but let’s not ignore their significance). The testicles are extremely sensitive to pain and are not usually considered suitable for erotic stimulation to any particular degree. Not true! You can add a high degree of pleasure for him by paying the right kind of attention to the balls.

Now let’s go back to the penis itself. The opening in the tip of the glans is the meatus. Here is where the cum spurts. (I could have said semen is ejaculated but I did not want to sound too professional).

There are other parts of a man’s body which respond with alacrity to oral stimulation - for example many men are particularly sensitive around the nipples. The first time I kissed my partner’s nipples he shot his load before I had the chance to even get near his cock.

So LOOK at your partner’s penis. Study it. Learn its areas of special sensitivity and be ready to apply that knowledge to his body with your tongue and with your lips when you bend your loving head over his cock. There is nothing that you can do which more clearly shows your love for him.

The sad fact is that most people, men and women, do not have the slightest idea of how to suck cock. Most seem to think that simply by making a cunt of their mouth, closing it around a man’s penis and bobbing their heads lustily up and down until he climaxes automatically makes them expert cocksuckers. Au contraire!

Consummate skill is required to suck a man’s cock and provide him with the highest degree of pleasure possible. When I first started my quest I really had no one to turn to for advice and counsel. It was all hunt and suck. Hunt and suck. Find that one technique that could and would set him on fire! I had to learn from my experiences and while I would not want to deny you the innate pleasure that these experiences will bring I would hate to see you lose a great companion because of your inexperience and lack of expertise.

Let’s assume that you have taken that opportunity to LOOK at his penis. To explore each area of the penis in order to find the most sensitive parts. That you have gotten beyond "Parts is parts" and recognize that some parts are more equal than others.

In order for you to observe your man’s reactions and get the most information possible about his responses try the following:

While his erect penis points toward the ceiling, cup his balls in one hand and gently, using only your tongue, lick softly but carefully along the entire underside of his erect organ. As you suck along its underbelly you will learn those areas that give him the greatest pleasure when your tongue is touching them. Unless he is made of stone, your partner will provide you with vivid clues as to which areas are most pleasurable.

As you discover these areas of enhanced pleasure, concentrate on them. For most men the most sensitive area will be the point where the rim (or corona) of the head and the foreskin were attached prior to his circumcision, on the underside of his penis. By continued licking and tongue-tapping along this area you are going to give great pleasure. Some men may even ejaculate from this, if they are not experienced at receiving long, luxurious blow jobs. If you are not skilled and you want to please him in a hurry I suggest that you get him off in this manner in order that you become familiar with the nature and delight of his ejaculation.

As he is approaching climax you will note changes in his penis. These signs will be the same every time, so you can prepare for his cum properly. The head of the cock may swell somewhat. He may thrust his hips forward as if he wants to plant his creamy seed as deep inside you as possible. And most men, immediately prior to ejaculation, will produce a tiny drop or two of clear fluid at the opening at tip of the glans, the meatus. When you see this or feel the meatus opening further, the moment of truth is at hand. Launch the torpedoes, full cum ahead! Prepare to swallow man-seed and take his precious essence into your belly.

Where should you be when you are sucking his cock? Between his legs, on top of him, in a sixty-nine position? Where?

Because of the structure of his penis, as well as the structure of your mouth, lips, tongue and teeth, you can provide the highest degree of sensation to yourself and your partner by kneeling between his legs and approaching his cock from the bottom rather than from the side or the top. Don’t believe me? Try the various positions (I describe later the techniques to be used with each position). See what works best for you and your partner. But know that a man likes nothing more than being able to watch you suckle his prized organ, so with you down on your knees worshiping his tool gives him both maximum physical pleasure as well as optimum visual stimulation.

Place his stiff cock inside your mouth but do not tighten your lips around the shaft. With your head begin a circular motion. The cock will slide to different places in your mouth as you continue this movement. Watch your teeth on this one!

A kneeling position will suffice but it is also effective when your partner is on his back and your head is directly over his cock.

The circle should be executed in both clockwise and counterclockwise directions in a slow, purposeful manner. I found many guys in New York who seem to prefer this technique above all others. When the technique is performed correctly it gives many hours of unadulterated pleasure.

With your man sitting in an elevated position and you on your knees in front of him, lift his hard cock to reveal his balls.

With your tongue, find the underside of his balls. Now, while resting his balls on your wet tongue, lick in an upward motion to the very tip of his cock. It is permissible additionally to use your hands in this technique and bettor to do it several times in succession, like licking a lollipop or ice cream cone. I grew up down south and one thing about southern boys is that they learn early how to get it off quickly when the need is there. The lollipop lick is the one technique in this article which few men can tolerate for long periods of time without cumming.

Now let’s discuss a technique that is probably the most common cocksucking technique in the world. Take his cock in your mouth, but not deeply. We will get to deep-throating later on. Slide your moistened tongue lovingly over the circumcised head until your lips close around the shaft at the point just behind the corona. Don’t just open your mouth and close it around his cock, slide it in. He will enjoy it much more. If possible, depending on the size of your man, continue sliding your lips further down until you reach his circumcision scar. This is a very sensitive point as well. Sucking up to the tip and down to the circumcision scar in even, steady strokes will provide him with the ultimate pleasure.

Now encase the bottom part of the shaft with your hand. Remember the shaft is relatively insensitive to any kind of stimulation. By enclosing the base of his penis with your hand you give him the sensation of having his penis fully encased. Most men masturbate by holding the shaft and pumping it vigorously up and down. With you holding his shaft firmly while suckling on the upper portion, he will be comforted and will receive both a new and a familiar sensation at the same time.

Now you have several options. Try twisting your head from side to side making sure that your moist lips stay in contact with either the coronal ridge or the circumcision scar. Next, slide the bare head deeper into your mouth. On the return stroke upward toward the tip, ensure that you mouth is fully engaged with his penis (IE not just your lips, but your tongue and roof of your mouth as well. Apply more suction on the up stroke and upon crossing the sensitive coronal ridge, return to your down stroke, reducing the suction but keeping your mouth fully engaged in pleasuring his big manly penis. While doing this, pump your hand up and down on the shaft either tightly or lightly depending on which technique seems to give your stud the ultimate pleasure. Maintain a slow, steady rhythm. Inexperienced suckers often try to rush at this point, but soon find out that slow and steady action is the winner. Don’t exhaust yourself in 3 minutes, as this could take some time. Enjoy the cockhead in your mouth, eagerly anticipating receiving your man’s semen.

When he climaxes he may want to push your head further down the shaft of his penis; he wants you to envelop his cock. Whilst you are learning to identify his approaching climax you will miss the fine points if you deep-throat at this time. Instead, suck around the corona as he climaxes so that you can intensify his pleasure and increase the force of his orgasm.

As you gain more experience you will be able to tell exactly when his climax is approaching and you will be ready for that initial spurt into your hungry mouth.

The techniques discussed so far are the basis of cocksucking. Do not go beyond them until you have mastered them - not only the techniques themselves but also the reading and interpreting of your partner’s responses. You must be able to interpret exactly the degree of arousal generated by what you are doing.

When you have reached this point, you are ready for the more subtle, more advanced techniques. That said, don’t be so slavish that you miss out on the fun of self-discovery. Find out what works for you and for your partner and make your cocksucking as individual as your signature.

One of the first things you will have encountered when you first started to suck cock was your gag reflex. Most men seem to want to force their cocks down your throat as far as they can get it, particularly at the moment of orgasm.

The average length of your oral cavity is three to three and a half inches whilst the average Caucasian cock length is five to six inches. This would seem to dictate that getting all that cock into your mouth is an impossibility, yet it can be done. It is possible to master the necessary technique. I don’t want to be boring, but if you understand your anatomy you will begin to understand how you to take his hard cock into your mouth and down your throat.

The biggest obstacle to taking all of his cock into your throat is the fact that there is a bend of almost ninety degrees just behind your tongue. In order to practice this, get in a position where you can turn your head in such a way that your mouth and throat lie almost in a straight line. Lie on a bed so that your head is near the edge, with your body sprawled across the bed so that your head is tipped sharply back.

This position will put your mouth and throat nearly in a straight line and will allow your partner to approach you in such a way that insertion of his cock can be made so deeply that his pubic hair presses against your lips and his balls dangle on your nose.

The natural tendency is to gag when a foreign object such as a deeply thrusting cock is being forced down your throat. You can overcome this by completely relaxing your throat at moment the insertion is made. It is equally important that you maintain this relaxation during the entire deep-throating.

Let him put his cock as far into your mouth and down your throat as possible without you gagging and hold it still while you find the most comfortable way to proceed. Because of your position you will not be able to move or to offer him any greater stimulation than simply keeping your mouth tightly closed around his throbbing cock. If you are able, try to stimulate the underbelly of his shaft with your tongue.

You will only be able to relax and take his cock in this way if you completely trust your partner. Your partner is in full control. He must initiate and maintain all the motion. This is the only exercise in which you relinquish your control of the situation to your partner. He will relish this for the simple fact that for the first time he can insert his cock as deeply down your throat as he wants to.

Now your partner should begin an in-and-out movement that is just like fucking, starting slowly especially if this is a completely new experience for the two of you. The only other requirement of him during this exercise is to keep the motion in the same direction throughout; there is simply no leeway for him to vary the motion from side to side.

A word of caution: Don’t let your partner get carried away at the instant of his orgasm. At that spectacular moment he will be able for the first time to thrust his cock all the way inside your oral cavity and that is the most important lesson of this exercise! Because of your position in bed you will not be tasting his sperm. While you may have come to love the taste and texture of your man’s seed in your mouth, you will not get that treat on this occasion. The reason is because he has gotten his cock beyond your gag reflex! His cum will shoot directly into your stomach.

If both you and your partner understand what it is that you are trying to do, as well as the possible problems that may occur along the way, no harm or discomfort will happen to either of you.

To succeed, you must allow your throat to relax completely while your partner is thrusting his cock deeply down it. To do this long enough for your partner to reach orgasm is very difficult and may require much practice. Most novice cocksuckers will not, at first, be able to take their partner completely down their throat and continue to maintain proper relaxation until he shoots his load. If you have this problem, hopefully he will understand that this is not a rejection of him or of what he is offering you.

I know of couples who have devoted months to this lesson alone. Continue to practice this technique because your practice will allow you to take his cock deeper into your throat each time and for longer periods of time. Ultimately you will succeed provided that both of you have the desire and willpower to continue trying.

Now let’s turn to another portion of your partner’s anatomy which should not be ignored - the family jewels. Here are two objects which can enhance your partner’s feelings more than any other.

Many people do not think of the balls as primary sexual objects. Many men’s testicles are extremely sensitive and, just as in lesson eight, there must be trust built up between the two of you before he will willingly let you have undisputed use of these two pearls of delight!

For today’s lesson, begin by gently licking his balls with your tongue. You may want to gently caress his cock with your hand while you are bathing his balls with your tongue. Remember that the balls are extremely sensitive to pain and he will lose his trust in you if you do not respect any limits he places on them, just as you have the right to place limits on the back of your throat until you are completely ready to receive him.

It is possible, once you have built up this trust, to take both his balls in your mouth. He will be more receptive to this if you thoroughly wet them with your tongue prior to taking them into your mouth. Unless your partner is into body shaving, he will have hairs on his testicles. By giving the balls a complete tongue bath prior to taking them into your mouth, you will have pressed these hairs down along the surface of the sac and will not inadvertently cause pain by pulling on them.

This may seem a small lesson but you will discover an entirely new world of sensations for your partner when you take time to get to know his testicles!

There will be times when you will want to get him off in a hurry! What follows is a very simple technique and if you understand your partner’s basic cock anatomy you will grasp this one easily.

Place your lips around the head of your partner’s cock and twirl your lips wetly and gently around the coronal ridge at the back of the head of his penis. This does not require any great cocksucking skill and it works simply because this is the area that is most sensitive on your partner’s cock. All that is necessary is for you to find the most sensitive area around the coronal rim. By sucking on this area of his cock continuously you will produce a quick powerful cum. If it’s not working and the your floor is approaching during a quick elevator blowjob, use one hand to pump his shaft while you suck his sensitive coronal ridge and the other to tickle his big man-sac. [Beware of security video cameras - Editor!]

It is not necessary to bob your head up and down on his cock to get him off, although as noted above that can work well too. One other use of this rim suckling technique is to get him hard again after he cums and you will soon find him rip roaring to go again. While most men tolerate this gentle head suckling well, most cannot stand up and down sucking (IE head bobbing) after they cum, so just suck gently on the head, concentrating solely on the rim or down further on his circumcision scar. Keep his spent cock in your mouth until he begins to stiffen once more.

Don’t be surprised if you find yourself going back to this lesson for seconds. We discussed briefly at the end of lesson 10 a technique to get him going again if he has recently cum. Now let’s concentrate on some other techniques to get him back on again. Not just to get him hard but to keep him hard; hard enough to want to cum again!

After he has cum you may need other techniques to keep him hard and to keep him interested. Many men (not all, but a good proportion) are exhausted by a single cum and while it is possible to get your partner up again you have a long way to go before you get him to cum again. Cocksucking alone at this time is usually not enough to get him off. You will need to combine some of the techniques you have learned in order to stimulate the juices for a second and third climax. Don’t hesitate in your exploration of his body at this time. His nipples. His balls. His armpits. His earlobes. His navel. His toes.

For the second cum you are free to really get into his body and explore all those erotic areas that you missed when you were concentrating on his cock exclusively.

One of the things I find most exciting about the second cum is the lack of expectation that you must get him to climax within a certain time frame. You have all the time in the world to really give his whole body a complete tongue bath. If this does not have the desired result, it is time to try prostate massage. That’s outside the realms of cocksucking, so I won’t go into detail here.

Soixante-Neuf (French for sixty-nine) is, by repute, the sixty-ninth position for love-making described in the Kama Sutra. (The Kama Sutra is an ancient Indian text widely considered to be the standard work in Sanskrit literature on the subject of human sexual behavior, written by the Indian scholar Mallanāga Vātsyāyana about 1700 years ago.) Given that the original Sanskrit work described only 64 positions, any reference to position number 69 is clearly false. In truth, the term comes from the head-to-toe juxtaposition of the numerals making up the number 69, creating a characature of the position adopted by two people engaged in mutual oral sex.

Soixante-Neuf is not always the perfect way to provide your partner with oral satisfaction. Inadvertently one of you will cease your part of the oral service in response to the subtle pleasures that the other partner is giving you. Many people think that the deep throat technique of oral sex is the ultimate pleasure you can give your partner, but I believe that sixty-nine is the ultimate pleasure. Done correctly and unselfishly, with both of you completely in tune with each other’s innermost desires, sixty-nine is the ultimate. But most people try it too early; whilst it becomes an intensely satisfying experience for one partner it is at the expense of the other. Only when you are completely on each other’s wavelength you will discover that 69 is a very pleasurable activity for both of you.

If you have a partner who is not in the least interested in giving oral sex and only likes to receive it, then to attempt sixty-nine is to ask for unhappiness in your relationship. Simply be joyful that you can suckle, service and ultimately coax the seed out of his cock into your mouth, bringing yourself close to orgasm without even touching yourself.

The Butterfly Flutter. The best position for this gentle and very sensuous cocksucking movement is kneeling over your partner. If he is on his back, kneel between his legs. Alternatively kneel in front of your partner while he stands. I like this position because the cock feels thicker in your mouth and throat and you have complete freedom to play with his balls.

Create the basic vacuum pressure on the cock but only enough pressure to pull the cock into your mouth ever so slightly. Then, with lips firmly wrapped around the cock head and shaft, gently flick the tip of the cock with your tongue. Make an up and down movement, so that the beat of your tongue moves along the underneath of the tip of the cock. After several minutes of this, revert to the basic vacuum suck.

The Travelling Figure-of-Eight. Once you are comfortable with the basic vacuum suck and have become accustomed to his cock deep in your mouth and throat, try this action. It is guaranteed to take his breath away.

With you lips firmly wrapped around the cock shaft, try very slowly to reach the base of the shaft or as close to it as you can comfortably reach. Your nose should be buried in or at least touching the public hairs at the base of the cock. With your nose trace a figure-of-eight eight as if the eight were lying on it’s side; the motion should be three to four inches long. Then slowly travel up the shaft of the cock to the head, continuing the figure eight motion with lips firm. Do this for as long as you are comfortable; your man will be floating in orbit as his wildest dreams of the ultimate blow job are coming true. When you get tired of the movement slow down and return to the basic vacuum suck.

I take full credit for this one myself. From the time I hit puberty I was fascinated by cocks. Big ones, little ones, cut ones, uncut ones, crooked ones, straight ones. All shapes, all sizes. I wanted to feel them down my throat! Combine this very basic love of cocksucking with an inherent fear of not being able to take cock to completely satisfy your man and you can imagine how I felt. I needed a technique that would feel good in my mouth and would feel good for my partner. Here’s what I came up with:

Go down on the cock shaft as far as you are comfortable. All the while your lips should be firmly wrapped around the shaft. Open your mouth as wide as you can and suck in as much air as your lungs will hold. While sucking in air let your open mouth travel up to the cock head.

Your up-stroke motion should end at the head of his cock just as your lungs fill with air. Now with your mouth still open let the air in your lungs out slowly through your mouth as your opened mouth travels back down the cock shaft. This technique cools the cock on the up stoke and warms the cock with your hot breath on the down stroke. Do this movement for as long as you like then return to the basic vacuum suck method.

Keep it up as long as you are comfortable with it. If you feel he is about to cum, stop what you are doing and let him cool off for a few minutes. He likes it too much and he wants it to last as long as you can keep it going. You want to enjoy his cock as much as you can until you get tired of it. Only then let him pop his cock!

A circumcised cock is a thing of beauty and made to be worshipped and sucked to orgasm. That’s not to say there is anything wrong with conventional intercourse, but cocksucking requires much more skill and passion. You must practice sucking on a regular basis so you can pleasure a man orally any time. Be a man’s cocksucker and proud of it, so that your friends say you can suck the spunk out of a rock. That’s what it means to be an expert cocksucker. If you are, you will never have any trouble getting or keeping your man.

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